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Marriage can be a wonderful life-long partnership between two people that often results in raising children, shared experiences, better health, and, ultimately, happiness. It can also fall apart, leading to divorce, lifelong trauma for you and the kids, as well as loneliness, which has all the hallmarks of a nationwide epidemic. 47% of Americans do not have meaningful interactions with friends or family on a daily basis, says a 2018 survey by the nationwide insurer Cigna.

Making marriage last requires both work and an understanding of the ebbs and flows that are a part of any relationship. According to a recent study"Personality Change Among Newlyweds" by the researchers from the University of Georgia and the University of California, achieving marital satisfaction also calls for understanding how the personalities of the partners inevitably change over time. The scientists found that personality changes begin right from the onset of a marriage, as partners adjust to their new roles. The most significant difference that takes place is that husbands and wives become less agreeable. https://bigthink.com/paul-ratner/how-getting-married-changes-your-personality
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chloe-stevenson
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Life after marriage is more of responsibility than a change.

This is me after so much of experience in two and half years of marriage.

I agree marriage changes life to some extent like promising a friend to meet but turned out late, getting up late n never reach family functions on time. Get blamed by office boss, friends, family, relatives n many other people for turning up late. Completing household chores late night when maid doesn't turn up n so many….. Who knows that I am sleeping more because of mental pressure which my office gave me. Also, work life balance was very very difficult.

But, I chose responsibility over change.

If I had to compare marriage with that of my single life, then it's a change but when I accept and adapt few things after marriage then it's responsibility.
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How does one's life change after marriage?
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The thing is called adjustment. After marriage, one has to make so many adjustments in your lifestyle, what you eat, what you drink, where you can go, with whom you can talk, your career, your hobbies. Almost each and every thing
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When you go out with friends, someone will be waiting for you if you're late. Even just the thought of it sucks.
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The thing is called adjustment. After marriage, one has to make so many adjustments in your lifestyle, what you eat, what you drink, where you can go, with whom you can talk, your career, your hobbies. Almost each and every thing
Yeah, My husband does not like traveling and i love traveling. So we both have to adjust with each other. He does not eat some veggies, so i don’t make them to avoid double effort of making something else for him. Left my career to move with him to another country. Had to leave my social life
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We don’t do many things apart, which I think is a huge part of the problem. We’ve only been married for two years and it feels like 20.
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Not being able to agree on everything. For some couples it is a lot and for others it is a little bit. But two humans will never totally align on likes, dislikes, value, principles, etc. So there will be compromises and sacrifices on the part of both people
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I think marriage sucks because it makes you stuck at home when your friends are still living their lives
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It really is a game changer getting married, and I don't think it's something for everybody.
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Everything in my life at this point I am no longer excited about and I feel I am too young to check out of my marriage or my life
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The age-old phrase “happy wife, happy life” may have some truth to it, but no matter how much you work to make your partner feel satisfied and equal in your relationship, marriage is hard.
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I didn't live with my wife before we got married. Big mistake. After we got married, we moved in together and since then, I have had zero alone time.
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Your life completely changes when you're married
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We fight all of the time about one thing: money. We have joint accounts, so we can track exactly what each other is spending, but it's just obnoxious because then we get mad at each other for secretly spending money on stupid things. Before when we dated, money just seemed easier to figure out, but now that we share finances, it's a constant battle over every single thing we buy or spend money on.
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Marriage goes in waves. You've got to be patient. People bail and give up on their marriages way too early. They just don't put the work and the effort into it. You've got to suck up your ego a lot of times, because that can be a big downfall.
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