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A lot of us are clingy sometimes, especially at the start of a new relationship. When everything feels fresh and exciting and you can’t wait to hang out again and again. It can come as a surprise when your partner asks for space. While clingy tendencies may have been “ok” in your previous relationship, being overly needy is generally considered a toxic dating habit. As Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D., points out in her article Why Clingy Partners Cling, clingy partners usually have low self-esteem and “fear becoming abandoned,” despite having a positive outlook on their romantic partner. As a result, “they seek constant reassurance, emotional support, and closeness.” And what’s worse is many clingy or obsessive behaviors are portrayed as idyllic in movies and literature, making it difficult to tell when you’re being overbearing. https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/5-clingy-relationship-behaviors-hurting-love-life/
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Some people often don’t know where to draw the line between being clingy and making their partner feel wanted or needed… especially when it’s a new relationship. Some of the most common clingy relationship behaviours that could potentially ruin your love life include: 1) Neglecting your friends or cancelling plans with them in order to spend every free minute of your time with your significant other. 2) Stalking them on social media and wanting to see what they are getting up to when they’re not with you. 3) Excessive messaging and expecting them to respond
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What are some clingy relationship behaviors that you've witnessed OR been guilty of?
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karnati.kiran
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my opinion of clinging is right and wrong. so our scriptures say a master is the one who knows how to attach himself and detach himself untainted. so in short when a master brings joy through clinging happiness the entire circumstances expound in escatasy. simply clinging is a way of masters play. who is clinging whom. no one clinging no one. it is a play of universe to attract and dissociate and dissociate and attract.. very very complicated phenomena displayed by almighty to exert pressure to achieve a good reason. just see does a comment travel being clinging. does metior cling. does earth cling in rotational perfect orbit around sun. and so the stars which are consuming so much of energy every second are they clinging. so many particles in this universe clinging. who is clinging whom. it is master almighty who is keeping distance and attracting his opulence Radha. is Radha a depiction of krishna or Radha a depiction of female force towards man of her deepest love. who is Radha in this existence. if Krishna is almighty then is radha not ippulence of his own female energy. thank you.
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I used to be guilty with #4. When I was a teenager, I want my boyfriend to constantly text me, day in and day out. I would text him even when I am in school. I'm not as bad now but I still want my husband to let me know that he has arrived safe at his destination. If he doesn't text me within a reasonable amount of time, I'd start to get panic attacks. Thankfully, he understands and just accepted it.
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I used to be guilty with #4. When I was a teenager, I want my boyfriend to constantly text me, day in and day out. I would text him even when I am in school. I'm not as bad now but I still want my husband to let me know that he has arrived safe at his destination. If he doesn't text me within a reasonable amount of time, I'd start to get panic attacks. Thankfully, he understands and just accepted it.
You should loosen up and allow your husband to text whenever he wants to and not when you want him to. He is old enough to take care of himself.
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My ex used to insist that I introduce him to all my friends and my family. We’d only been dating for 2 months and I personally felt it was a bit too soon. I think clingy people generally have some unresolved insecurities that they need to deal with
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Listening in on my conversations and wanting to tag along when I go out with my friends = clingy AF
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I once had this boyfriend who would check up on me like every hour on the hour. It's crazy! He needs me to go with him to do even the smallest thing!
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My previous girlfriend was the worst. Texted me every hour just to check what I was getting up to and who I was with. I didn’t even have time to miss her cause she was always on my case
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My previous girlfriend was the worst. Texted me every hour just to check what I was getting up to and who I was with. I didn’t even have time to miss her cause she was always on my case
Totally agree bro. Girls need to know that bro-time is bro-time
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I don't mind kissing on the corner of the street every now and then, but some people take it a bit too far and make it a bit awkward for the rest of us. PDA is not okay and for me, that honestly screams attention-seeker and comes across as clingy because seriously now, save that for when you're alone.
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I don't mind kissing on the corner of the street every now and then, but some people take it a bit too far and make it a bit awkward for the rest of us. PDA is not okay and for me, that honestly screams attention-seeker and comes across as clingy because seriously now, save that for when you're alone
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I once had this boyfriend who would check up on me like every hour on the hour. It's crazy! He needs me to go with him to do even the smallest thing!
This is a common problem in most relationships, especially in this digital era we live in. To gauge how much interaction is too much, one should hang back for a couple of days and see how often their partner texts or calls, and that should give an indication of what they perceive as normal and healthy daily interaction
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Honesty is the best policy right? So I think stop beating around the bush and just be completely honest with your partner, if he/she is being too clingy - voice it. So many relationships could've been saved through mature conversations and communication
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i feel the examples cited are not clinging. because clinging is meant for attraction. the examples cited are in securities. there is a difference between in security and clinging.
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