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How to fall in love with anyone

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In Mandy Len Catron’s Modern Love essay, “To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This,” she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study’s authors, “One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure.” Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, so this exercise forces the issue. https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html
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To many, this may come across as somewhat taboo, particularly because love is such a strong emotion and we've been raised and taught to reserve it for certain people, not just anyone
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Is it really possible to fall in love with anyone ?
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If one is in love with the idea of falling in love then I wonder if perhaps this could be true for some people. It can be difficult to distinguish actual love from infatuation.
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If you open up yes than you can love anyone however its not always going to go both ways
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Yes very true it can be hard to distinguish actual love from infatuation at first but eventually you can tell if the two will hit it off
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Can you charge your laptop with your mobile charger or mobile with your laptop charger?

I believe love is also like this charger thing. Not everyone is made for you. There will be a specific one for you.
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We can like so many people and are attracted to many people, but only one can stay in your mind. Some people can only stay in your mind, and some can only stay in your heart, but when a person can live in both your heart and mind, it's love
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These were some of the questions: Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a""perfect"" day for you?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Take 4 minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained anyone quality or ability, what would it be?
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Love is the feeling you have when you see an adorable baby laughing. The feeling you have when the first drop of rain falls; when you come across a beautiful flower. You want to see that baby laughing always. You want to feel that rain drop's fragrance and never let that flower die.
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I believe it's also to make sure the wrong person doesn't fall in love with you.
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You'd be surprised how open people are of you open up first...
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Nice
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If I was on a first date and some girl pulled out a list of questions I'd think"hey, at least there's a plan!" You gotta talk about something, right? Who cares if it was written down first, that's some solid conversation starting material in there.
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