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How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch

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Imagine if we treated broken hearts with the same respect and concern we have for broken arms? Psychologist Guy Winch urges us to rethink the way we deal with emotional pain, offering warm, wise, and witty advice for the broken-hearted.

Real heartbreak is unmistakable. We think of nothing else. We feel nothing else. We care about nothing else. Yet while we wouldn’t expect someone to return to daily activities immediately after suffering a broken limb, heartbroken people are expected to function normally in their lives, despite the emotional pain they feel. Now psychologist Guy Winch imagines how different things would be if we paid more attention to this unique emotion—if only we can understand how heartbreak works, we can begin to fix it. http://www.simonandschuster.com/books/How-to-Fix-a-Broken-Heart/Guy-Winch/TED-Books/9781501120121
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A broken heart can feel like the end of the world, especially if you didn’t expect it - and moving on can feel impossible. Psychologist Dr Guy Winch, author of How To Fix A Broken Heart, has become an expert on healing post-relationship pain after experiencing the phenomenon multiple times.
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How do you deal with heartbreak or mend a broken heart?
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People have different relief mechanism and there can not be an universal best way to deal with heartbreaks.But still there are few things you could try which would help in the long run.Personally for me,it was writing that helped me to navigate through my emotions.
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First and foremost, stay away from people who cannot understand your pain and are just for the sake of saying say “MOVE ON”. Well, it will hurt you more as it is not easy to move on from a heartbreak just like that and these people do not understand your pain.
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Reflect on what happened and why it happened. Take a step back and process the heart break. It helps you understand the underlying reason, you might realize that he/she was not the right person. It helps you understand your flaws, weakness and refocus on things that matter the most.

Accept the heartbreak, then move on. It's a process, it doesn't just happen overnight
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Don’t repress your feelings unless you really feel that you’ve cried enough and are really over that person.Until then, feel whatever emotion comes to you. Remember, this heartbreak is just a phase that will sooner or later lessen over time. Give time the time to heal this wound and have faith and patience with it.
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I have gone through 3+ breakups of relationships that lasted anywhere from 9 months to 3 years. Each time, I swore it was the worst breakup I'd been through. Each time, I learned a little more about myself, what I like, what I don't like, and how to get through heartbreak.

All of which is to say that while I'm not""good"" at breakups (no one really is), I'm much better skilled at getting through them than I was for my first.

Your experience will vary depending on how bad the breakup was, how emotionally intimate you were, and how long you were together.
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Don't avoid it, accept the fact and deal with it, you can't change the past. Cry as much as you can but once you done crying stop crying for the same reason it's like laughing hard for same joke again and again.
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Initial days are bit difficult especially nights when we remember the chats and calls, let them pass silently
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The best way to deal with heart break is to understand that your heart is unbreakable. It is not made of glass that can be broken by anyone at their own sweet will. You feel bad because you believe that you should feel bad when your beloved discards you. You consider it your failure and feel defeated and humiliated when you face a broken relationship. You forget that your feelings are the product of your own thoughts, a creation of your own figment of imagination.
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The best way to deal with heart break is to understand that your heart is unbreakable. It is not made of glass that can be broken by anyone at their own sweet will. You feel bad because you believe that you should feel bad when your beloved discards you. You consider it your failure and feel defeated and humiliated when you face a broken relationship. You forget that your feelings are the product of your own thoughts, a creation of your own figment of imagination.
William Shakespeare said it wisely,"There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."
Your heart breaks because you think that heart can be broken.
Your heart won’t break, if you can think that heart can’t be broken.
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Accepting does not mean being a loser, nor does it mean submission. Accepting means — becoming strong enough to respect the true meaning of love. That’s what is the best way to deal with heartbreaks and breakups.
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