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How to raise a child who cares

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It is developmentally typical of kids to consider themselves first. As a parent, your focus is the 'right now'. As long as you’re there loving her, guiding her, teaching her, and providing a consistent presence, she’ll get through it and learn the skills she needs in order to thrive.Bubble-wrapping kids will prevent them from fully experiencing empathy.
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Do you agree with the article? How do you teach your kids how to be caring?
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For me, having had 2 toddlers grow up, it is rather impossible to teach a toddler about caring. I feel that they are not ready for it. The article does make sense from my experience. My kids were trouble makers when they were young, but I practiced positive parenting and now they are doing pretty good, even volunteering for charity activities.
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I usually read books and watch movies with my kid. I occasionally stop and ask your child, “How do you think this character feels?” There is no right answer. The point is to encourage empathetic feelings and reflection. Such questioning will give children opportunities to hone their ability to sense the feelings of others. It will also help them to base their future actions on compassion rather than self-centeredness.
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My child, or maybe probably all children, doesn't like it when I say she is wrong or not polite, etc. So instead of directly reprimanding or disciplining her, we tell a story about it or use her stuffed animals as the main characters.
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Our family supports a charity and we regularly do volunteer work. When our child was at an appropriate age, we started letting her join us. We believe that by exposing her to people and their situations, she can get to be more caring and understanding, and a generally good hearted person.
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I allow my child to declare their feelings when they’re having a difficult time with a sibling or friend. Ask your child if they can also express what the other person might be feeling and why. The point of this exercise is not to put down or dismiss your child’s feelings but to widen his or her sense of all that is truly going on in the situation.
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I don't think there is one way to raise a child. What works for one kid will not work for another. You need to be ready to adjust. You need to listen to your kids.
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I think the best way is still to show by example. If your kids see that you practice empathy and compassion, they will copy you.
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Sweetness and gentleness is one thing that we practice as young as toddler. We teach our kids to be gentle with their toys and the pets at home. I think this is one thing that contributes to their sweetness as teenagers now. Caring is more in their nature by this time.
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We make sure our kid helps take care of her younger brother. She fetches his diaper and toys. We encourage her to sing if her brother cries. She even copies me and carefully rocks her doll to sleep. It is very cute and heartwarming to watch her.
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You should show your child compassion and empathy so they can show it to others. The child won't be able to give what they don't have.
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Here's a good resource I found when I had problems with my little boy about two years ago - https://www.babycenter.com/0_the-caring-child-how-to-teach-empathy-age-5_67146.bc
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Respond calmly and evenly when your child admits to misdeeds. Your child can still experience the consequences of those misdeeds, including your measured expression of disappointment or anger. Emotional tirades will just suppress your child’s willingness to admit mistakes.
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Here's a good resource I found when I had problems with my little boy about two years ago - https://www.babycenter.com/0_the-caring-child-how-to-teach-empathy-age-5_67146.bc
That one is for 5 years old above. Here's one that's applicable with any age - https://www.huffingtonpost.com/samantha-rodman-phd/how-to-teach-kids-empathy_b_12673540.html
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Take the time for open conversation with your children and answer their questions honestly, this provides endless opportunities to talk about caring and respecting for others. Simply lead by example and you’ll accomplish a lot.
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