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I’m Not ‘Lucky’ Because My Husband Cooks And Clean

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It was 7 p.m. by the time my husband got home from work ― delayed by a stop-off at the grocery store to pick up the necessities: milk, eggs, Kotex pads (the long ones).

Perched on an exercise ball in the middle of our living room, a warm towel fresh from the dryer splayed on my lap as I folded laundry, my welcome home greeting was followed by a request. “Can you make dinner, please?”

Shedding his wool coat and shooting the cuffs of his collared work shirt up his arms, he nodded, already shoving his fingers beneath the running tap water to ready for dinner prep. “On it.”

This is where I’ve gotten used to adding a quick dash of humility, a sign that I feel guilty for having trumpeted my good fortune. I married a mensch who matches his own socks and our daughter’s, too! I’m hashtag blessed!https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/my-husband-cooks-and-cleans_us_5c473bade4b0bfa693c79a38?utm_campaign=hp_fb_pages&ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000046&utm_source=women_fb&utm_medium=facebook&fbclid=IwAR0FbVKco-W4vva7pcU-HswnKezYnjj7j60YMof_g3yvi73ic_tRQ1vj6-Y
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I'd still consider it"lucky" because we all know that not all men are programmed to do household chores.
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What is your opinion about this? Does your husband help around at home?
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I always hear that I’m lucky that my husband cooks dinner every night. Is he lucky that I do the dishes every night? He gets home from work at 3pm and I get home from work at 7pm. What makes the most sense? Of course he should cook dinner. I don’t understand why it’s an accomplishment for a man to be an adult and share the responsibilities of a household.
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I wanna be a boy!
The bar is so low!
You exist? You win! lol
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I wanna be a boy!
The bar is so low!
You exist? You win! lol
The bar is set so low, yet many of them still manage to trip over it.
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My mother-in-law told me I was"lucky" that my partner (her son) was so"helpful" in housework and raising our kids. I told her I wouldn't have married someone who wasn't going to pull their weight. Luck has nothing to do with it.
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My mother-in-law told me I was"lucky" that my partner (her son) was so"helpful" in housework and raising our kids. I told her I wouldn't have married someone who wasn't going to pull their weight. Luck has nothing to do with it.
Right on! We talked about it before moving in, but I was shocked during the first year of marriage/ living together to find out how much nagging my husband required. Had we lived together before getting married, I probably wouldn't have walked down the aisle. Luckily, he learned quickly and sometime during our second full year together, I noticed that I don't have to nag anymore, I usually just ask once and he's right there helping me. 😊
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We really need to change the idea of women being lucky because men are being responsible adults. Women shouldn't have to pamper grown men. But let's not forget that men are not programmed to do it in our society. Women are expected to do it so we still have to be thankful if our husbands are changing their ways.
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Please stop saying you’re husband is “helping you”. He is doing the shared work of family and home. “Helping you” implies it is YOUR job. It is not!
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We have three boys, ages 21, 16 and 12. All of them have known how to do laundry, clean the house, empty the dishwasher, mow, shovel snow, rake leaves, etc. for years. The oldest is now out of the house; the younger two have each begun making dinner one night a week so they can have an arsenal of meals they’re comfortable making. I’m raising future adults, and they need to know how to take care of themselves before they worry about taking care of a family of their own.
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We have three boys, ages 21, 16 and 12. All of them have known how to do laundry, clean the house, empty the dishwasher, mow, shovel snow, rake leaves, etc. for years. The oldest is now out of the house; the younger two have each begun making dinner one night a week so they can have an arsenal of meals they’re comfortable making. I’m raising future adults, and they need to know how to take care of themselves before they worry about taking care of a family of their own.
Thank you for doing that!
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There’s not even a bar anymore it’s just a loose piece of string on the ground.
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