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Modern Love and Relationships

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The idea that we lose ourselves in the presence of our partner is deeply ingrained in the modern perception of love, particularly in the United States. As almost all of our communal institutions give way to a heightened sense of individualism, we look more frequently to our partner to provide the emotional and physical resources that a village or community used to provide.

Is it any wonder that, tied up in relying on a partner for compassion, reassurance, sexual excitement, financial partnership, etc. that we end up looking to them for identity or, even worse, for self-worth?

Combine that with the commodification of love, the increasingly omnipresent “is there somebody better?”, and we have a recipe for decreasing the perceived “cost” of love. All the while increasing our expectations on our partnerships, and even adding more to the list, without really understanding what we’re asking. https://estherperel.com/blog/why-modern-love-is-so-damn-hard
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Relationships are no longer “a boy meets girl, they fall in love and live happily ever after.” There is a myriad of technicalities that are involved which completely alters the very foundation of relationship as we know it.
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What are some of the common problems that exist in modern-day relationships that may not have necessarily been as evident with previous generations?
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A lot of people feel like it's just supposed to happen. In my personal opinion, ALL relationships don't just"happen". They take dedication, understanding, love, and patience. They may start sporadically.. but to keep it going takes work. You have to take the time out to talk things out and communicate
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It’s very possible to cheat on someone you love if you feel like the one you love has hurt or betrayed you in some way. Cheating doesn’t happen out of the blue. Usually there is some underlying problem or unresolved issue which doesn’t go away, and the only way for this person to get relief is by looking outside the relationship.
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Our problem is that we keep on hopping from person to person to form the “right kind” of relationship where everything is right. But the truth is, that's never going to happen. You need to stick with one person through all the rights and the wrongs, and if you can do that, you have found the right person, the right relationship and you need to value that everyday.
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Being with someone just for fame, money or time pass.

You can never be happy if you keep on chasing people just for these things and you are more likely to cheat on your partner if you find someone more famous, rich or attractive. But this is not what a relationship is all about, right?
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It’s very possible to cheat on someone you love if you feel like the one you love has hurt or betrayed you in some way. Cheating doesn’t happen out of the blue. Usually there is some underlying problem or unresolved issue which doesn’t go away, and the only way for this person to get relief is by looking outside the relationship.
This is true, this has become even worse in modern-day society because of social media and the standards or 'couple goals' that are often portrayed, which may be borderline unreasonable.
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The thing is, no two relationships can ever be the same. No relationship is hassle free. A relationship needs lots of constant efforts on a daily basis. It takes two very understanding people to carry out the responsibilities of a relationship with each other in every circumstance. Relationship is not always rewarding, sometimes its punishing as well.
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Now a days being in relationship is fake
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No one is perfect and if someone seems perfect, they are fake for sure. You can't get everything good in a person. There's a reason you fell for that person, so just appreciate the efforts they make for you.
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