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Most Cringeworthy Thing You've Heard a Parent Say

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Parenting can be so damn stressful. Kids push boundaries and buttons, and it’s a parent’s job to stay calm and steady in the face of it all. But most of us don’t perform this job with absolute perfection. We sometimes and say things to our kids we wish we could stuff back inside our mouths. I’m sure most of us have some cringeworthy moments to mull over and make up for.

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If I said any of these things, I’d regret it, but I can’t say they all seem equally awful. Enabling incompetence isn’t great, but is it as bad as telling a kid you regret his existence?
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Do you agree with this list? Anything you’d like to add…or subtract?
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My older sister and I have a very bad, very toxic relationship with each other. We always have. About two months ago, she had the gall to come to me to ask me if I would be her surrogate. Not because she can’t have children. Not because of some life-threatening reason, no.

She asked because she wants two kids, wants them to grow up around the same age, and because she simply does not want to be pregnant a second time; she does not like what pregnancy has done to her body (she’s currently 8 months pregnant with her first child). What’s worse is that she wants to use my eggs, because her husband “Likes your look.” (I imagine that it’s very unsettling to know and admit that your husband likes the way your sister looks, and wants to have a baby with her.)

Now for the most cringeworthy thing I have heard a parent say, given this situation…

When I complained to our mother about this, mom actually said:

“There are mothers out there who will GLADLY carry a child and be a surrogate for their own daughters! You are her sister and you won’t do that for her? You should feel embarrassed! You should be ashamed, and this is all going to come back and bite you on the ass in the future!”

I had no words, only cringes…
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When I was in my junior year of high school, I was with my mother “downtown” where even then women dressed up formally to go there. Think: best dress, best purse, high heels, hose and fancy woman’s hat, lipstick and white gloves. Can you smell the magnolias now? While there I saw a very smart fellow student I recognised and introduced him to my mother. She was not speaking and had an indirect gaze for what seemed a long time. Then my friend and classmate said: “I have to go now” and everyone went their own way.

Later at home, I asked my sweet, cheerful mother: “why didn’t you to talk to my friend downtown”. She did not speak. Then I asked her the same question again. She blurted out the answer: “Back in my day you did not introduce a white woman to a black man”. She also said: “Back then a black man did not walk on a sidewalk ‘downtown’, they walked in the gutter when whites were there.” This occurred in May, 1964.

I lost some of my respect for her then. I saw her in a new different light at that moment. She was prejudiced, immature and peevish. Not the same highly regarded mother figure I had known when I was a small child. There were, then, many such people who were to be left behind in a era that had past.
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"He’s a loser just like his dad! He ruined my life! If I take him home, I’m going to kill him.”

These words were spoken by the mom of one of my third grade students. Her son, Angel, had always had behavior problems. His bio dad was in jail because of drugs, and the mom was now remarried to a man who was a “recovering” heroin addict and always high on methadone (supposedly to help him kick the heroin addiction). The mom had another son from another man, and she always favored the younger sibling over Angel because he reminded her too much of his dad.
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When I was in my junior year of high school, I was with my mother “downtown” where even then women dressed up formally to go there. Think: best dress, best purse, high heels, hose and fancy woman’s hat, lipstick and white gloves. Can you smell the magnolias now? While there I saw a very smart fellow student I recognised and introduced him to my mother. She was not speaking and had an indirect gaze for what seemed a long time. Then my friend and classmate said: “I have to go now” and everyone went their own way.

Later at home, I asked my sweet, cheerful mother: “why didn’t you to talk to my friend downtown”. She did not speak. Then I asked her the same question again. She blurted out the answer: “Back in my day you did not introduce a white woman to a black man”. She also said: “Back then a black man did not walk on a sidewalk ‘downtown’, they walked in the gutter when whites were there.” This occurred in May, 1964.

I lost some of my respect for her then. I saw her in a new different light at that moment. She was prejudiced, immature and peevish. Not the same highly regarded mother figure I had known when I was a small child. There were, then, many such people who were to be left behind in a era that had past.
wow!
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"He’s a loser just like his dad! He ruined my life! If I take him home, I’m going to kill him.”

These words were spoken by the mom of one of my third grade students. Her son, Angel, had always had behavior problems. His bio dad was in jail because of drugs, and the mom was now remarried to a man who was a “recovering” heroin addict and always high on methadone (supposedly to help him kick the heroin addiction). The mom had another son from another man, and she always favored the younger sibling over Angel because he reminded her too much of his dad.
Oh my! I can't believe that this really happened!
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My older sister and I have a very bad, very toxic relationship with each other. We always have. About two months ago, she had the gall to come to me to ask me if I would be her surrogate. Not because she can’t have children. Not because of some life-threatening reason, no.

She asked because she wants two kids, wants them to grow up around the same age, and because she simply does not want to be pregnant a second time; she does not like what pregnancy has done to her body (she’s currently 8 months pregnant with her first child). What’s worse is that she wants to use my eggs, because her husband “Likes your look.” (I imagine that it’s very unsettling to know and admit that your husband likes the way your sister looks, and wants to have a baby with her.)

Now for the most cringeworthy thing I have heard a parent say, given this situation…

When I complained to our mother about this, mom actually said:

“There are mothers out there who will GLADLY carry a child and be a surrogate for their own daughters! You are her sister and you won’t do that for her? You should feel embarrassed! You should be ashamed, and this is all going to come back and bite you on the ass in the future!”

I had no words, only cringes…
That is so horrible!
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I would gladly share one time my kid went up to me saying a cuss word because of my husband and i wanted to say Back the hell off but and guess wht know they are in foster care
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“Ilena, the day you start telling me how to hold my dick when I jerk off is the day I’ll start telling you who you should date.”

My face: 0.o

I’m pretty sure a simple “I don’t give a fuck who you date” would’ve sufficed, but he’s always been a little dramatic with his delivery.
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“Ilena, the day you start telling me how to hold my dick when I jerk off is the day I’ll start telling you who you should date.”

My face: 0.o

I’m pretty sure a simple “I don’t give a fuck who you date” would’ve sufficed, but he’s always been a little dramatic with his delivery.
Hahaha!!! I love how colorful your dad is!
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"Years ago, I interviewed with a German company. I was telling my mom it was strange how all the other candidates seemed to be tall, beautiful and white:

She says, “Well they are German, they are probably trying to do that whole master race thing.” That’s mom!"
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A mom was having a heated discussion with her young daughter. In fact, we had shared an “I know exactly how you feel” glane in front of the Mini-Wheats! We kept strolling past them in various sections of the store, but I stopped dead in my tracks when I heard her say that.

“This is why Daddy left us, because of how you act, you’re being terrible!”

I wanted to cry! How could she put that on a young girl? She was acting exactly how she should at that age, my own daughter was a testament to that! I understand it can become overwhelming, I was trying not to erupt myself, but to say that? Terrible!
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