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Ever wondered how to be a better person and a better parent?
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All people thinking of being parents should have to pass a series of tests to be able to have the privilege of being parents. I definitly was not ready at 24 when i had my kids.
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GODDDDAAAAMMMM I always thought parents needed a licence to raise children!
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If I could point something out. Dr Shefali, although brilliant and articulate, did NOT create this “new way” of parenting. This is the exact, I mean EXACT, method that God had described his relationship with us in the Bible. God has given us, his children, free will to make our own choices. He laid out the “rules” of how to chose so we don’t suffer. But we still get to chose. And our choices have a ripple effect on others. But the paradox of our free will and choice is that Gods sovereign will exceeds ours. He is in control of all things. And our free will exists within that. It’s a confusing paradox for many, but Christians have “accepted it” by faith for hundreds of years. All Dr Shefali is attempting to teach is Gods “parenting” of us. The exact way the Bible describes. And why people push back is because the paradox of parents having ultimate control and responsibility, how can free will and choice of the child actually exist? But it does. And it does for us too.
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Oh and that bed time. I tell my children that bed time is 7:30 but if they are not sleepy is ok, as long as they are in bed, they can read we can talk and there is not need to sleep when they don't want to. We don't sleep when we don't feel like so why should they?
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"It's narcissistic to think we can raise another being when we haven't raised ourselves."
This right here is at the core of why I don't think I'm ready to be a parent yet.
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It is not a parent's job to love the child - it is the parent's job to teach the child to love himself. The end of altruism.
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the only thing I don't agree with is to not have kids - the kids bring the entire perspective she has explained, the entire awakening that people are ONLY experiencing because of their children - she will change her mind.
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Considering I was homeless by choice for a few weeks to better address youth homelessness (for those who want to graduate beyond it), her reaction to homelessness is absolutely accurate and relevant. So many people see youth homelessness as THE problem, when it represents a vibrant pattern of free choice by young ADULTS wishing to free themselves from prison, and willing to live fully here to make those decisions. The vast majority of homeless youth preteens through young adults, choose to leave their parents/guardians' home.

I don't think the average person beyond childhood is aware of how epidemic and deeply EVIL child abuse is around the world and how long it's been within our species. There's a vague idea, but the adult world is so isolated from children that it's easy for people to just forget how much more autonomy they have over their own lives as adults. And I'd say partly because most people are overwhelmed by autonomy after a childhood of sheltering.

She is the most inspirational and profound speakers I've ever heard in the youth rights movement. I am overjoyed to see a foundation of consciousness- Being- for how we treat children.
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I love how she brings these profound, deep truths to all topics and reasons up from those no matter the circumstance. A lot of cold, hard wisdom here that yet comes from a peaceful place. Great episode.
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Love this, I totally agree. As a mother of four I literally had to create a new paradigm to be able to even understand myself. Fantastic information!
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There is only you. You are a guide to a child. You are a partner to another, there is really only you in your wholeness. Your perspective. Your history, ideas, beliefs. You are completely unique, understanding this allows you to honour other beings (your child/husband/wifes) uniqueness and let go of control. Letting go of control is like holding a delicate flower in your hand, its petals are not being crushed by your desires and views. When you accept this there is great healing.
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